I am not absolutely sure about the difference between a 60 and 80.. I use a 100 as my initial shaping wheel. From using a 100 grit, I would say that an 80 would be fine for sure.. Just not sure about the 60.
I do see your dilemma for sure !
Not an uncommon one.. Your certainly doing your research and carefully considering the options.
Don't believe I am the best person to comment on your options that include the soft resin wheels. As I have no experience on them.
I can tell you that option #3 sure works for me. Except I think mentioned before..
For hard Jaspers, and Agates, I come off the 400 grit diamond wheel straight to a 80 grit silicon carbide belt. Then go on through the 220, 400, 600, and a worn 600.. Then straight to an oxide polish.
I do on occasion us a few diamond mesh pads prior to the oxide polish.
Someone else can comment better on your choice of 3M Diamond Belts (1200 grit, 3000 grit, 8000 grit and 50 000 grit). I would like to know if such big jumps in the diamond mesh works well..
I am thinking that a jump from the 8000 to 50,000 would likely be a bit of a jump.. Maybe even the 3000 to 8000 also..
Lets see what someone else says..
Overall ...... From my limited experience, I like your choice #3.
Also..... I can't help but always want to point out a very experienced cabber here... Bobby.. He strictly uses silicon carbide belts.. No diamond belts at all..
I too get very nice results doing the same.. I rarely use the few diamond mesh pads I have.. Only on a few off the wall mineral types.
A nice hard good quality Jasper and agate will come of these silicon carbide belts quite nicely !
Your other choices are considerably more expensive too... You can always upgrade or add to your cabbing arsenal.
Ok... I am done rambling !