Oh Oh, do I sense trouble in paradise Amanda LOL I hate cleaning and organizing too so I can sympathize with him LOL
The only trouble in paradise is that he has gained over 100 lbs since I moved in with him. He has this problem where he sees food that is bad for him and has this immense desire to therefore consume it despite my gentle nudging that he really shouldn't be eating it. I have stopped baking and making anything that could be any kind of temptation for him. I've switched to all lean meats and keep frying to a minimum. I try to push more fruit and vegetables down him however I can. Yet in the end he is still gaining weight because I cannot stop him from buying that bag of Doritos with his own money and then he will sit there and eat the whole damned thing without a moment's thought as to the problem it is causing. He keeps saying he needs to lose weight and then he will turn around and do something totally counter-productive to that goal. He keeps getting upset because clothes he bought for work a few months ago no longer fit him. He tried to blame it on how I was doing laundry till I pointed out that I wash everything on cold water and use low heat in the dryer like the tags in his shirts dictate for care.
While I am overweight, I have stayed in the same ten pound window since we moved in together. I know how to control my portion size, and also try to move and get some exercise. Getting him to do much movement other than a half hour walk at lunch at work with his work buddies is near impossible. He moves around the house just trying to unpack boxes and he starts sweating profusely and huffing and puffing and says he is tired. Only he can fix that problem. But he chooses to do nothing about it. I've done my part to help him, he needs to do his part.
I get frustrated because he will sit all day at his computer at work and then come home and do the same and not do anything to be productive. You don't lose weight sitting on your rear all day and night and you don't win any favors from your wife by letting her do everything. Yesterday I sat down and cried. Yes I cried because I felt so overwhelmed. What was he doing at this point in time? Watching anime on his computer and eating Doritos. He only came out to see what I was doing AFTER he heard the door to the garage slam a few times because I was carrying out loads of broken down boxes to stack in the garage. He did manage to help me carry out the rest of the empty flattened boxes, but then he went right back to his computer.
I just about died from shock tonight when he actually helped me clean up after dinner was over and he didn't just walk away. I thanked him like three times because I was both shocked and seriously want to see more of that! Sometimes I feel like all I'm good for is cleaning up after him, keeping the house clean, doing laundry, and putting a hot meal in front of him.
He's attending therapy sessions, He is under a doctor's care for several things, but none of that seems to be helping him make the right decisions about his weight and health.
I'm just very frustrated right now. Stressed too. Because I love him and I worry about him and damnit, I don't want him to die on me!
